This is the first in a series of posts intended to highlight the lives and work of our fellow Christians, our brothers and sisters, and what they are doing around the world.
We should get to know our family better, for they are the Body of Christ itself!
An interview with Kelly Ann Evers
Kelly Ann Evers is the founder of several charities providing support and assistance to victims of domestic violence in 82 countries around the world. A survivor of domestic abuse herself, Kelly has recently written a book sharing her experiences and which illustrates how others can follow the same steps toward complete emotional, physical and spiritual healing.
Kelly has kindly allowed me to interview her for the first in this series of posts intended to help us to get to know God’s global family better.
The book was written to bring hope and healing into the lives of women who have been abused, and to provide those who are still living with their abusers comprehensive information that will help them to safely and successfully leave. Countless women suffer with personal wounds so deep and painful that they are trapped in a vicious cycle of hopelessness.
My greatest desire is to help readers come to know and experience God’s love, and to realize that they deserve nothing less than a happy, full, beautiful life. I want them to discover that the Word of God will renew them, and bring true peace and joy into their lives. But most of all, I want readers to hurt no more!
You have founded several charities that help people overcome the trauma of domestic violence. Could you tell us about this work you are doing?
Yes, I’d love to. His Love Heals, Domestic Violence Help™ is an international organization headquartered in Southern California that is based on Biblical principles. As a survivor of severe domestic violence and sexual abuse, and through the extraordinary, transformed life God has given me, my mission is to bring healing, health, and hope to battered and abused women by empowering, encouraging, and inspiring them to succeed.
Partnering with thousands of organizations worldwide, His Love Heals, Domestic Violence Help provides a comprehensive understanding of domestic violence and a full range of free resources for victims, their families, friends, lay-leaders, and pastors that includes crisis intervention, safety planning, referrals, life skills tools, confidential and non-traceable online support, the One Step at a Time Program, living with a batterer tools, escape planning, and much more.
In the first chapter of your book Hurt No More you discuss how the happy life people thought you had was just a façade. During the time of abuse, why did you pretend?
I did it to keep “the secret.” Victims of abuse and domestic violence are “trained” by their abusers to tell no one about their abuse. I kept silent about what was happening because my ex-husband threatened to kill me, he threatened to take my children to another country where I would never see them again, he threatened to contact local authorities to have my children taken away from me, and he made a multitude of other terrifying threats. I had no choice but to put on a façade and pretend I was living a beautiful life.
Was there anyone you confided in during this time?
No, I had no one I could confide in.
I imagine that this must be very common. Do your experiences reflect those of the people you are trying to help?
Absolutely! Although organizations like mine are bringing domestic violence out in the open, it’s very common for women not to talk about the abuse they are experiencing.
When you successfully escaped from your husband, you telephoned a “battered women’s shelter.” What is that?
A battered women’s shelter is a safe home, also known as temporary housing, for women and their children who are attempting to escape from their abusers. Most shelters offer legal help, counselling, assistance finding employment, transitional housing, clothing, and a multitude of other services.
Do many shelters like this exist for people fleeing from abuse?
Yes and no. With the economy as it is now, many shelters are closing, leaving women and children homeless, or forced to stay with their abusers.
Who runs these shelters?
Some are government run, and many by private organizations.
Where can people go for more information on this?
The best place to go is the His Love Heals, Domestic Violence Help website.
You’ve also mentioned in Hurt No More that you obtained a “Kick Out Order” when you went to court. What is that, and is it easily obtained?
It’s a legal document, ordered by the court, to have the spouse or significant other removed from the house. Women and children can return to their homes safely and live there until the final legal divorce/separation is complete. Because laws are different in every state, it’s best that women contact the District Attorney in their county or go to www.womenslaw.org for more information.
Do men also come to you seeking safety from their partners?
At this time, very few. Men seeking help is vastly different from women seeking help. It has been one of our goals to provide a full range of services for men seeking help too, however, at this time we don’t have enough resources.
Your faith in God is clearly very dear and important to you. How did you come to know our Father?
After the birth of my daughter my life spiraled downward. My husband’s drinking grew worse, and so did his physical abuse towards me. During June 1997, my sister-in-law invited me to church. I loved being there, and I began to fall in love with the Word of God, the church family, and Jesus. In August 1997, I was cleaning my daughter’s bathroom and the Lord spoke to me. I fell to the floor, prostrate before Him, and wept. For the first time in my life, I knew what it was like to feel His love, and I gave my heart to Jesus that day.
How did coming to know God bring healing to you?
As the years passed, I had an unquenchable thirst for the Word, prayer, and knowing Jesus intimately. Though the years of abuse left me desperately hopeless, depressed, and emotionally wounded – I knew that God had a better life than that for me, so I searched the Scriptures for the truth. The more I searched, the more I found that God wanted me healed and whole. He wanted me to live a joyful, victorious life. It was through prayer and the Word of God that He wanted to heal me everywhere I hurt – and He did!
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Soft Cover, 244 pages
Published on October 1st, 2011
Publisher: El Roi Publishing
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